The connotative pressures that come with being (or giving) the label of a BFF can be consuming. Similar to taking the plunge into an official romantic relationship, gaining the title of an acronym that involves both “best” and “forever” means something. While our younger, more frivolous friendships can cause the BFF title to jump from person to person based on things like outfit choices and neighborhood proximity, having and/or being a best friend in our adult years should be quite special. Make sure to caress the relationship by honing in on these telling signs:
The Gift Giver: Gift giving doesn’t mean showering your PIC with outlandish and constant gifts, but it does mean understanding the validity a personalized gesture gives. Something as simple as a postcard that speaks to your bestie’s sense of humor or a TrackR to kindly comment on his/her constant state of lost items is a great way to show you care without going over the top.
They aren’t your exact replica. You have tons in common - you can eat together, travel together, talk to one another and feel comfortable trying out new things together. You are still, however, different people. You appreciate one another’s differences and personality traits; you take time to take care of yourself and your needs while still making intentional room to spend with your BFF.
They keep it real. Part of the joys of having a true, close friend is that you can count on them for honest opinions and thoughts. Regardless of whether or not you heed their advice, you at least know what they think about those shoes, your relationship and your habits if you ask them. No sense in having someone who constantly agrees with things just to stay in your good graces.
They make you smile. From a short, shared smirk to rolling on the floor with the giggles, your best friend should care about your happiness. A friend who is willing to bring out your smile means he or she is also privy to your likes and humor, which allows your time together to be fun and full of surprises.
They keep your secrets. We all differentiate on how much we disclose about our personal lives to certain people, but when it comes to your BFF, whatever you decided to share should feel sacred and safe. This doesn’t mean that you spend your time together bad mouthing other people or seeping in the woes of your lives, but it does mean that you can count on one another when it comes to your private thoughts and stories.